We Need to Talk About Porn- a workshop for parents/guardians

SAPN is running this interactive workshop on Wednesday 5th September (6-8pm) aimed at empowering parents/guardians to have conversations about relationships, sex and pornography with their teens. Registrations are open now, and please share with others who may be interested! Porn is everywhere! It’s a very different age from when many of us were teenagers and technology has come a long way from having a sneaky look at a magazine in the bushes at school with your mates. If you have a smart phone, you can access pornography and statistics show that many young people do. But how do we talk about it? How do we even start a conversation that makes many of us feel uncomfortable? How do we frame it so our teens aren’t scared off sex or talking to us for good? Based on work delivered in schools, this workshop will cover how to talk about healthy relationships, consent and how to get your young person to understand how the sex we see in pornography is very different to sex in the real world. By the end of this workshop, you’ll be able to: Talk to your teens about healthy relationships Understand what consent is and why it’s so sexy Identify the impacts of pornography on young people – in particular their ideas on relationships, body image and sex Discuss and navigate how to respond to realistic scenarios Feel prepared to have a conversation with your teen about pornography Sex is a great part of life and we want to raise our children to be adults who have healthy and fulfilling relationships. Having these conversations is one...

The value of specialist services collaborating with schools

This week, ACC has announced an $18.4 million investment to roll out its Mates and Dates programme across New Zealand secondary schools. The programme, which has been run in some schools since 2014, is delivered by specialist providers, based externally from the school. Trained educators facilitate five one hour sessions across five weeks, in each year level of high school, totalling 25 hours for each student by the end of Year 13. The announcement of further investment has sparked criticism about why the programme is facilitated by outside providers and not by teachers. Sexual Abuse Prevention Network (SAPN) specialises in delivering consent and sexual violence prevention education programmes to young people in and out of schools and is currently the Wellington, Porirua and Kāpiti provider of Mates and Dates. As General Manager at SAPN, I’d like to share the perspective of my agency on the value of engaging outside providers to do this crucial work, and how collaboration between schools and specialists in sexual harm prevention ensures the best sharing of knowledge, skills, and educational outcomes for students. Sexual violence is a global problem and an issue that affects all of us, with New Zealand having the highest rate of sexual violence among OECD countries. Sexual violence is too big an issue to be solved in five, or even 25 lessons. Effective culture change requires a sustained long-term approach, which addresses the problem in multiple ways, including the reinforcement of positive messages across our lifetimes. The relationship between external providers and schools goes far beyond five lessons in each year group, and the collaboration and different expertise of those...

Changing ‘work hard, play hard’ culture not enough

“What is needed is specific recommendations for how to change those particular behaviours and attitudes that lead to sexual harm. To transform a culture rife with sexual harm, we need to address those underlying and related issues, but we also need to challenge the harmful behaviours themselves.” Fiona McNamara wrote an opinion piece on Dame Margaret Bazley’s review of Russell McVeagh for Radio New Zealand on 6 July 2018. Read the full article...
NZ Book Fair – A SAPN Fundraiser

NZ Book Fair – A SAPN Fundraiser

The SAPN New Zealand Book Fair Grab a bargain or the perfect Christmas present and show your support for the Sexual Abuse Prevention Network! The SAPN New Zealand Book Fair will feature a wide range of popular and limited edition New Zealand books generously donated by Booksellers NZ. Books in as-new condition, including: – Children’s books- illustrated and chapter books – Poetry – Non-fiction – NZ Literature – Art books – Some rare books Books will be priced from $5. There will also be gift wrapping and snacks available for a gold coin donation. All funds raised will go towards SAPN’s work in the community, providing consent and healthy relationships education programmes to youth and adults. Venue: 19 Tory Street upstairs space (NB there is a small lip at the entrance of the building, there will be a person to assist at the door during the event and lift access to Level 1) Time: Saturday 16th December,...
Wellington City Council Safety in the City Award

Wellington City Council Safety in the City Award

We are so pleased to have received a Safety in the City Award from the Wellington City Council. Below is the speech general manager Fiona McNamara gave on the night: It’s not long ago that sexual violence was barely recognised as an issue. In recent years, things have come a long way and this award shows that attitudes towards sexual violence are changing and that the wider community is placing real value on education about consent and healthy relationships. I’d like to acknowlege the whole SAPN team, all our staff including our educators who go out and have challenging conversations with young people and other groups, our volunteers who generously donate their time and the Trust Board. I’d like to acknowlege the three agencies that are part of our network and that support our prevention work Wellington Rape Crisis, Wellington Sexual abuse HELP Foundation and WellStop, and also to acknowledge the chair of our Board Helen Sullivan who was one of the founders of SAPN back in the early 2000s and has played a key role in its strategic direction ever since. Thank you again for this award, it’s an amazing way to end our busiest year yet and great encouragement to continue to grow the reach of our programmes next year. We know that every instance of sexual violence is preventable and we are absolutely committed to ending it and supporting safe and thriving...